是風,是潮,是空船
我該閉目掩耳,還是張耳直視?
就放手迎上吧
不論是舒,還是瑩
空中傳來牧羊人的呼喚
一小群羊離開草場循聲而去
回到牧羊人的羊圈
有的羊仍在貪婪地吃著青草
一隻一隻被黑夜吞沒了
<The Lord’s Sheep> Some sheep came because they heard the pastures here were good. Some sheep came following the fragrance of grass on the wind. Some sheep just happened to pass by and stopped here too— ––the whole garden filled with the sound of bleating as they grazed. Then, from the air, came the shepherd’s call. A small flock left the pasture, following the voice, returning to the shepherd’s fold. Some sheep, however, kept greedily eating the green grass, one by one swallowed by the night.
Our son Jabez, who is on the autism spectrum, is truly a blessing from God to our family. Through him, I’ve learned again and again what it means to see life through the eyes of God.
Yesterday, our family went to IKEA for dinner. After we finished eating, we followed our little family tradition—walking around the store to help our food settle. In the past, we would put Jabez in the shopping cart so he wouldn’t run off and make us chase after him. But yesterday was different. Jabez did so well. We didn’t need the cart, and he didn’t run wild or make us chase him through the aisles.
It’s not that he stayed perfectly still—he still wandered happily around the shelves and displays, exploring the model rooms. But this time, when he walked a little too far ahead, he would turn around to see where we were. When he noticed that the distance between us grew too wide, he would run back on his own. And when we called his name, he’d come running back with a smile—before darting off again, full of joy.
In that store, Jabez was free. He could go anywhere he wanted. Yet because he cared about us, he never truly strayed away. In his freedom, he chose to stay close to his family.
Isn’t that the kind of free will that delights God? No matter what the world around us looks like, when a person treasures God above all else—as God treasures us, showing “patience and kindness” toward sinners (1 Corinthians 13:4)—that is the freedom that pleases Him most.
So I pray: Lord, give me such a heart—a heart that cares deeply, that keeps its gaze on You and on those You’ve given me, and never turns away.
按:以「欠(債)」為紐帶的親子關係
按:以「愛」為紐帶的親子關係
按:只是愛的「方式」改變了:誦經功德迴向、求籤問卜→信靠創造世界、愛世人的的神(唯獨耶穌,有真平安)
按:
1.禱告不是基督徒的專利,不需要從成為基督徒開始2.禱告是與神建立關係的管道3.神是聽禱告的神
按:善用孩子的固著,可以減輕父母的負擔
A:我的人生像一張餐桌,擺滿了餐具和杯具(慘劇、悲劇)B:重建看待生命的眼光,以喜樂的心改善親子關係
按:人的眼光:孩子怎麼這麼麻煩又不可愛?神的眼光:我捨了完整無瑕的是生命,去愛「更麻煩、就不可愛」的你
按:特兒需要的陪伴其實很簡單,用極少的成本就能滿足孩子,但常常我們不願意付出的,是「時間」。
按:聖經說溝通時要「慢慢的聽,慢慢的動怒」,其實異曲同工,都是為可能的「關係受傷」踩煞車。
按:所以,如果婚姻關係還在,夫妻彼此要努力彼此相愛,成為彼此的幫助、彼此的資源。
按:但家長常常操作成「訓練」,要孩子「做」出成果
按:父母應該適度揭露孩子的「特殊」,不要隱藏、掩蓋。社會中的一般人唯有「看見」特殊,才有機會「理解」特殊,也才有機會展現「善意」----即使是消極的避開,都是一種善意,因為對方可能不知道如何展現「更有溫度的善意」。避開,給了我們的孩子自由活動的空間,當然是一種善意!
按:宣教士「準備好去天堂」不是為了求死、找死,而是為了自己的「永生」----神所應許的「永活的生命」!
按:人間最貴重的禮物,是有人把自己的生命完全交給你,因為他信任你---那個人,就是你的特兒!
按:正向語言、強烈肯定的語氣,有鼓勵的作用。最可怕、最傷人、但家長最無感的語氣,是「反問語氣」例:你是不知道這樣會危險喔?練了這麼久,你怎麼還不會?聽話,有那麼難嗎?你以為你在「陳述事實」,孩子卻只接收到「你的否定」,因為透過你的「語氣」,孩子的情感已經被你傷透了。
按:饒恕,不只是傷害你的人得自由,你自己也得自由,因為你的生命不再受這個苦毒捆綁,不用隨時隨地擱在心裡帶著走。
按:「人種的是甚麼,收的也是甚麼。」(加拉太書 6:7)按著聖經教養特兒(種),孩子就長成符合聖經教導的樣子(收):懂得愛,懂得祝福,懂得策略----用策略來愛人,而不是來害人。
(1)神「在光明中」:光明是神的「本質」(2)人「在光明中行」:人要努力遵從「光明之道」而行(實踐)(2-1)人「不光明的本質(罪性)渴慕神的光明(神性)」,努力遵從神的道,學習神、與神親近(2-2)「在光明中行」是我們「彼此相交」的唯一合理條件(團契不是吃吃喝喝、聊心事、交朋友)
(1)「認自己的罪 」不是神「赦免我們的罪 」的條件,而是前提:若人對罪沒有病識感,就不會有赦罪的需求感,也就不會尋求神了(所以基督信仰說「神愛人是無條件的,成立」)【旁證】耶穌聽見就說:「康健的人用不著醫生,有病的人才用得著。 」(太9:12)耶穌是大醫生,看得見我們生病(罪性),所以降生為人來「醫病」。但有的人不認為自己有病,所以就算遇到醫生,也不會求醫。(2)神「信實、公義」的本質,是「赦免我們的罪,洗淨我們一切的不義 」的保證(★★★★★)(3)神「赦罪、洗淨我們一切的不義」的方法:他兒子耶穌的血(十字架的真理,基督信仰的核心)